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Śrī Matre Namaḥ,
My understanding of Kaulācārā, most people would not have any problem intellectually entertaining the dualities of pure/impure but only the true practitioners of Vāmācārā can live with the dualities of pure/impure all the time and use impure things as objects in their worship. The disclaimer being, it takes time for beginners to develop a relationship with a deity, develop good enough bhakti before they can transcend dualities and till that happens, sādhana during auspicious times, visiting auspicious places like Śakti Pīṭhas will do nothing but only good. Or the beginners should have unflinching faith in Guru's word.
Guruji - What has to be emphasized here is that these four traditions within Srividya are essentially all the same – the difference is only in the tools that are used. In fact, I will use a metaphor that has annoyed people before, but one that I believe is accurate and useful in explaining these concepts: Think of the traditions as four toolboxes available to the initiated Srividya upasak.
Why toolboxes? Because a toolbox is something you open when you have a job to do. You reach in and take what you need for the job at hand. Just because a certain tool is in there, doesn't mean you need to pull it out for every job. It's quite likely, in fact, that you will *never* need to use most of these tools. But they are there in case you do.
(Source - http://amritananda-natha-saraswati.blogspot.com/2016/04/traditions-acharas-within-sri-vidya.html)
Guruji - All our pujas are satvic, which empower and hurt none. This is how Kaula pujas are done to willing and consenting adults at Devipuram.
(Source - http://amritananda-natha-saraswati.blogspot.com/2016/04/kaula-achara.html)
Śrī Gurubhyo Namaḥ